The end of school must bring an honest evaluation of student success

StudentSuccessLogoIt’s imperative that kids develop what success means to them, not always having to live up to someone else’s standards.

Right now, our children have a very challenging job – that of being good students and a great kids. The best way to empower them is to teach them how to empower themselves.

They must see that a clear definition of success needs to be in line with their own values, interests, and abilities. Success can no longer be defined by being an extrovert, participating in the “chill” sports and clubs, GPA rankings, PSAT and SAT scores and the colleges to which they are accepted.

Success comes in all shapes and sizes; and colors and backgrounds. However, what all students possess but most don’t know yet is that they all have leadership skills. That’s right – even the introverts, wallflowers, and shy ones all possess that “breakout gene.” They just need to find it.

Students must define the meaning of success in their own life. And this means parents helping to prepare them for life rather than protecting them from it. Each kid needs to figure out his or her own path without burning out or losing the joy of learning.

This gives them a more balanced idea of success, which puts character ahead of competition and social status – while striving for academic success and developing a sense of purpose, well being, and connection in the world around them. Students need to feel an authentic, rather than superficial, feeling of success.

It is crucial, even in the early years, to avoid the exhausted, always-driven, and emotionally impaired cycle that can lead kids to believe they are only as good as their last performance.

Students need to develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and determination necessary for success while allowing them to navigate the trials of life. But what we all must give them are the tools to figure things out on their own.

As much as we try to “help” our kids, they will not travel down the path of success until they motivate themselves. So many of us validate our parenting and our own status through our kids’ achievements and, yes, successes – which works for no one.

We simply cannot live vicariously through our kids. However, once our kids realize, acknowledge, and understand they already have valuable assets, they then possess the greatest self-motivating factor of all – creating their own personal identity.

We know that today’s students just may be part of the most capable, creative, knowledgeable, multi-tasking and opportunity-filled generation yet. We need to prepare kids today for the jobs of tomorrow that haven’t even been created yet. To do this, we must equip them with the right skill sets to be successful in school, work and life. There is much more to learning than just academics.

Students need to discover how confidence, determination, sense of pride, and peace of mind is as important (if not more important) as making the Honor Roll, Dean’s List, winning scholastic competitions, and being in the top 1 percent of their class. And it’s no surprise how embracing these attributes in turn make for great results in the classroom and throughout life.

The increased self-awareness, confidence, and sense of responsibility allow students to be even better prepared when they begin the necessary counseling, groundwork, and mentoring on the road to higher-ed acceptance.

This column is by Ritchie Lucas, founder of The Student Success Project and previously Think Factory Marketing. He can be reached at 305-788-4105 or via email at ritchie@thestudentsuccessproject.com, and on Facebook and YouTube as The Student Success Project.


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